Control the controllable

I did catch people smiling today.

Getting upset with the people who are not following what we think they should do, is not helpful to us. It makes us upset and they don't get to feel that upset, we do!

We feel the anger, the disappointment, the frustration. Is it helpful or useful for us and our family? Probably not. Breathe through the feeling, it is caused by a sentence in your mind. Change the sentence…. I can’t control other people’s behaviour and that’s ok.


We can't control other people's behaviour and they don't like it when you try. You can make requests, but they get to decide how they will act, and that's on them.


Lets look at what we can control. We can control the way we think about things and our own actions. You can control the way you show up for you and your family, friends and community. You get to feel proud, calm, proactive, creative, caring, love, supportive, kind, helpful, resourceful, or a combination of these by the way you act. Thinking good thoughts will generate these feelings. Practice good thoughts on purpose. Repeat them often.


In saying that, it is completely o.k. to feel scared or a bit anxious. Let those feelings in, breathe them in and out. A feeling is a vibration in our body, caused by a sentence in our mind. Remember to balance the talk/ news of corona virus out. A few more ideas to add to yesterday’s list are: to listen to some positive podcasts, look for a breathing or mindfulness app, watch a comedy on netflix for 10 minutes tonight, hug your children, go for a walk, create a 30 day challenge…

Then choose, yes choose, a different thought that will help you generate a new feeling. Find that good thought that provides you with calm or love and make it your mantra. We will get through this! We have evolved from living in caves with spears and fire. When we are calm, we can use our best wisdom to come up with solutions and to grow and develop. We can get through this.

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